Assertive
behaviour is characterised by respect: Respect for yourself and respect
for other people. It is based on the idea that your needs, interests,
opinions and feelings are as important as those of anyone else. No more, no less.
Assertiveness coaching will not
guarantee to get you what you want. What it can do, is help you
communicate your needs more honestly, directly and clearly without
violating the rights of other people.
Assertiveness coaching is based on 4 assumptions:
- No one is born assertive. Assertiveness is a skill, something we learn and therefore something that can be taught
- Your thoughts and beliefs affect how you behave
- Identifying and modifying unhelpful and inaccurate thoughts and beliefs can help us change how we think and behave
- Behaving assertively can change how we think and feel
